Complexity is a great energy that can be used as a driving force, but if you make a mistake, it can create a sense of victimhood and put you in a very unhealthy state of mind,” says Mika Anmika, 53, a TV personality. But if you take the wrong step, it can create a sense of victimization, which can be very unhealthy. Although she has a bright and positive image, she used to lack self-confidence. We asked her how she came to be where she is today, with her happy power in full bloom. (Continued from Part 1 of 2) [Photo] Slender, beautiful legs! See more photos of Ammika * * * –Do you have a complex? To be honest, the time when I think something is a complex has passed. When I was young, I had a lot going on; I had a big injury in my mouth when I was 3 years old, and when I smiled, my face would pull back. When I smile, the children around me make fun of me. After I realized that my smile would startle people, I became afraid to laugh in public. –You have a strong positive impression of yourself, but your childhood was not like that. I had no self-confidence as a child. Seeing me like that, my mother taught me “four magic things. She taught me to have good posture, to smile with the corners of my mouth lifted, to look people in the eye, and to listen to what they have to say. As I followed and practiced these four things, the adults around me began to praise me. Through the accumulation of successful experiences, I gradually became more confident. -Every one of these things is important, but it is difficult to put them into practice. When I put them into practice, the adults around me and my teachers at school praise me. When I listen to others, I turn my upper body, not just my face, toward them and speak with a smile. My friend’s mother saw this and praised me, saying, “Mika-chan always has good posture. My mother told me that a true beauty is someone who is comfortable to be with, and by being aware of the four magic things, I became a comfortable person. –I think everyone has a complex, large or small. How do you analyze complexes, Ammika? I feel that the unique individuality of a person tends to become a complex. Complexes are also “gifts,” but we become accustomed to seeing ourselves without realizing it, and when we compare ourselves to other people who we admire and who are attractive in ways that we are not, our longing grows, saying, “Something is missing,” or “I want to be more like this. This may be extreme, but I feel that if I lived on my own, my complex would not grow so large. In my lectures, I tell my clients, “Please find three good things about the person next to you. I find that 100% of the time, the parts that I thought were complex come up as good points. In other words, they are attractive and unique to the people around them.
